Most women should be familiar with who and what an OBGYN is. They’re that obnoxious doctor we have to see once a year for our annual women’s exam. What does this entail? An internal and external exam, as well as a swabbing. We go to verify we’re still STD free, our cervix and uterus look normal and there’s nothing hinky lurking in our girl parts.
They’re also the doctor you will see once you are pregnant. They’ll do your ultrasounds, run your bloodwork, check your blood pressure and screen you for gestational diabetes, and once your bun is cooked, deliver your baby either naturally or through a c-section.
So there you have it. Your OBGYN is good at swabbing and catching babies. They aren’t, however, good at helping you get pregnant.
This is something we see time and again in the infertility community. You go to your OB and talk about starting your family. They counsel you that all you need do is ditch your birth control and they’ll see you in a couple months! You try and try and you might eventually call them back. If it’s been less then a year, and you are under 35, they will likely counsel you to stay the path, as it is normal to take up to a year to conceive (If you are over 35, 6 months is when you should seek help). And they’re correct. 95% of couples will achieve a pregnancy within a year of trying to conceive.
The problem arises when it’s been a year and you make that call. A lot of OB’s want to “help” and will claim to be “infertility specialists”. Keep in mind what I stated above. OBs are good at swabbing and catching babies. That’s it. That’s what they do. A good OB upon a year of trying with no success should give you a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist.
A bad OB will try and help. They will give you clomid without monitoring, not properly check if you have ovulated, or if the clomid is causing excess cysts or thinning your lining. They will claim you have no need to worry, as your young and have time, etc. Just keep taking the clomid and you’ll be pregnant in no time!
All in all they will just waste your time. The sad part is that this is something you see and hear frequently. Because you trust your Dr. You expect your OB to be compassionate and know that you need guidance. Reality is you have to be your own advocate, especially when it comes to your fertility. Whether they are being sincere in trying to help or not, they aren’t doing you any favors by not passing you on to a reproductive endocrinologist.