The above .gif has become my mantra in my professional life. A lot of people constantly wonder what it’s like to be a woman in tech, and it boils down to 1 of 2 things:
- Be nice and be a doormat
- Be assertive and be a “bitch”
And I mean this in the kindest fashion. If that’s possible. Being a woman in a male dominated field, those are essentially your choices. Or at least your choices as I see them. It’s been my personal experience that any time I assert myself, I am initially viewed as being bitchy. But I refuse to be taken advantage of, or to back down. Because of this, I end up being viewed as bitchy. That’s okay.
How do we fix this? I’m honestly not sure. I just know that’s been my experience working in a male dominated environment, and coming to terms with it has been freeing. They might think I’m being a bitch, but they also respect me, and that’s okay by me.