Today is the kick off day for WordCamp North Canton. This is the 2nd year for the event, and my second year as an organizer. I am beyond excited to be involved in this community and to help spread knowledge. Some snapshots from today so far:
I’ve had a hard time figuring out just what to write about for this week. For those who don’t know, this week is the 25th annual National Infertility Awareness Week. This years topic is “Resolve to know more…”. The problem is, there is so much education that needs to happen. So few women and couples even know the basics of fertility outside of the idea that SEX = BABIES we were taught in school. Reality however, is that 1 in 8 couples will have difficulty conceiving. So I’ll start with the facts:
- Number of women ages 15-44 with impaired fecundity (impaired ability to get pregnant or carry a baby to term): 6.7 million
- Percent of women ages 15-44 with impaired fecundity: 10.9%
- Number of married women ages 15-44 that are infertile (unable to get pregnant after at least 12 consecutive months of unprotected sex with husband): 1.5 million
- Percent of married women ages 15-44 that are infertile: 6.0%
- Number of women ages 15-44 who have ever used infertility services: 7.4 million
Please also remember that infertility IS NOT always the woman’s fault:
- 30% of infertility is female factor
- 30% of infertility is male factor
- 25% of infertility is unexplained
- 15% of infertility is a combination of female and male
And in case you were confused, I am one of those women. It took me a very long time to not only own up to there being a problem, but to seek out help for it. You might wonder why. I mean, if something is wrong, you just go to the doctor and get it looked at and/or fixed right? You would be correct for most things. However, despite the fact that infertility is classified as a disease (The World Health Organization, the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recognize infertility as a disease.), in the medical insurance industry it is considered a cosmetic procedure. That means that treating a couples inability to conceive is viewed the same as a boob job for cosmetic purposes.
Yes, that’s right. The insurance industry equates the treating of problems with the biological process of reproduction the same as it would someone who wants to make their b cup breasts a d cup. Totally the same thing, right?
And before you even suggest it, yes we all know we could adopt. But before you even say that, how much do you know about the adoption system? Did you know that there are wait times? Take a peek:
U.S. Newborn Adoption – Average Wait Time
Average time from preparation of portfolio to match with
birthmother (includes time spent in false starts):
Less than 3 months………………..34%
4 to 6 months……………………….19%
7 to 12 months………………………20%
13 to 24 months…………………….17%
Longer than 24 months……………10%
Time between birth and legal finalization:
Less than 6 months………………..54%
7 to 12 months………………………38%
Longer than 12 months………………8%
- 35% of respondents experienced at least one false start.
- 15% were matched after the child had already been born.
Then there is the cost:
U.S. Newborn Adoption – Average Cost
|Agency application & program fee||$14,161||$6,413|
|Document preparation & authentication||$1,114||$640|
|Birth family counseling||$1,085||$483|
|All other expenses||$4,682||$1,628|
- 35% of respondents experienced at least one false start. The majority (71%) of false starts cost less than $5,000.
Then there is the foster care system. Which while free, takes months to get approved. You then wait to take in a child, knowing that the entire purpose of the foster system is reunification. So you must learn to be okay with the very real possibility of having to give that child(ren) back to their biological family. In 53% of cases, children are successfully reunified with their families.
That’s not to say those aren’t options. They are. However, they still don’t cure a couples infertility. Telling someone to adopt when they are lamenting their inability to create life is insensitive and ignorant. They aren’t asking for a solution, they are asking for someone to listen. Same goes for telling us to relax. In my case, relaxing won’t make my fallopian tube miraculously start to work, or grow back the one I lost this time last year.
Anyway, I am getting sidetracked. All of this is to say, educate yourselves. Sex DOES NOT always equal babies, despite what your home ec teacher taught you. If you know someone suffering from infertility, stop giving them advice and just listen. If you’re suffering from infertility, know you aren’t alone. If you’re worried about your fertility, go to your OB and get a checkup. If you’ve been trying to conceive (TTC) for over a year and are under 35, seek out an RE. If you are over 35 and you have been TTC longer than 6 months, also seek out an RE.
If you want to know more, check out the Resolve website.
April 20-26th is the 25th anniversary of National Infertility Awareness Week. The topic this year is “Resolve to know more”. So hold on to your hats and get ready for some blogs from me next week about infertility. If you would like to get involved, or know how you can help next week, check out the Resolve site for NIAW.
As some may know, we had a litter of puppies last August:
That litter resulted in us keeping the beautiful Rynna:
3 were rehomed locally, and 2 went to the lovely Amanda:
Everyone loved the puppies so much, and we had such an interest in having more, we decided to have another litter. That litter made it’s arrival on the morning of March 29th:
We ended up with a pretty even breakdown like last time. 3 black and tan, 3 solid white. 2 black and tan males and 1 female. 2 female solid whites and 1 male. I’m excited for their eyes to open to see if we get any with blue eyes again.
As far as homes, both black and tan males have a home so far, 1 is going to a coworker, and the other is going to Amanda’s MIL out near his big brother and sister. The black and tan female might be staying, because Bill is absolutely in love with her. All funds from the puppies are going directly into our IVF fund as well, so that helps.
Needless to say, it’s impossible to have a bad day right now. All I have to do is come home and grab some puppies to snuggle and everything is perfect again.
- Early spring colds with a fever are gross. (Even if you live in Ohio and spring means it is still 25 and snowing, heh.)
- Fevers in general are gross. (No, they really aren’t better when you’re older than they were when you were a kid. I’d venture they’re worse because your Mom isn’t there to make you stay covered and “sweat it out”.)
- Your goal to go to the gym flies out the window when getting out of bed and blowing your nose turns into an Olympic sport. (No really. I have 3 gold medals in the nasal clearing triathlon.)
- Nothing feels better than a shower after 3 days of not being able to do anything but sleep. (Don’t act all grossed out. You know you’ve done the same thing before.)
- When you think you might be better, don’t believe it. You’ll go to sleep and wake up feeling worse then before you went to bed, making you wonder if you should have stayed up. (I really should have just stayed up and gone to work while I was feeling okay-ish.)
- Lastly, make sure you have enough tissues. 4 boxes of the Puffs plus Lotion are NOT enough. Promise. (Also keep yourself hydrated. No seriously, that snot has to be coming from somewhere.)
PS. It’s also awkward going back to work on a Friday for 1 day before the weekend. Even though you believe you should be elected the office savior for not coming in and sharing the love.